Amy Miller's Blog
Despite your real estate agent’s best efforts, you can’t seem to get to the place where you’re ready to choose one house over another. At best, house hunting with your spouse is frustrating. And it’s not that you haven’t already looked at 20 houses; you have. The problem is that your spouse and your tastes in houses are far apart. If you don’t work together and close this preference gap, you could lose out on a rare deal on a new home.
Closing gaps that couples have in housing amenities and structural musts
As awful as it may feel, your situation is not unique. Couples arguing over which house to buy is so common that there are television shows dedicated to the conflicts. Part of the reason why couples may struggle to reach consensus about buying a new house has to do with attachments that one or both people have to their current home.
Let someone be attached to their current house and you can expect that person to find at least one major, seemingly insurmountable, issue with any new house. Psychologists say that moving is emotionally tough on children and adults. Although there are people who move compulsively, packing and moving into a new home once every other year, many people prefer to stay where they are.
If you and your spouse keep bumping heads about which new house to purchase, sit down and talk about special experiences that you have that are tied to your current home. For example, you might have owed the house before you got married and have fond memories of summer backyard cookouts that you had with friends. If you move, you may think that you’ll be losing these special times similar to how people fear that getting laid off from a job will permanently take them away from friends they made at work.
Ways to work through the stress of a house move
Take a few days to talk about experiences you had at your current home. Assure one another that you can continue creating and enjoying great experiences alone and with family and friends at a new house, a place that fits your changing needs better.
Also, take pictures of your current home. Videotaping birthday parties, holiday events and sports and weekend hangouts are great ways to seize moments that you want to not only remember, but take to your new home. Start to take pictures and begin to create videotapes now, if you haven’t already incorporated this memory capturing process into your lifestyle.
Doing so sends a message to your spouse that you share his or her values. It also shows that you do appreciate your current home and agree that it was a smart decision to live in the house for as long as you did.
Look to the future
After you talk about what you appreciate about your current house and start capturing memorable experiences, see if your spouse isn’t more open to looking at new houses without searching for major flaws in the new house. If your spouse is still resistant to moving, create a list of things that your current house is preventing you from doing.
For example, your current house might be keeping you from expanding your family due to lack of space. Due to its design, your current home might be keeping you from building a home office. An aging parent might not be able to move in with you because of the way your current house is structured. Lack of yard space could prevent you from starting your event planning business or from hosting family gatherings.
Take a technical and an emotional approach when choosing a new house. It could help both your spouse and you adjust to the change. It could also help you both capture moments spent at your current house that you want to take to your new home with you.
The exterior of your home is just as important as the interior. The outside needs to fit the needs of you and your family. Good landscape design can have a big impact on a home. A high quality exterior allows for outdoor activities and brings more value to your home.
The big question is- who will do the landscaping? You and your family? Maybe you’ll hire a professional landscaper to help you complete these jobs. Landscaping isn’t a simple job. It’s more than adding stones and walkways to the yard and planting or mowing grass. When you want to transform the outside of your home, you’ll need a vision and plans to execute that vision. Here’s just some of the advantages to hiring a professional landscaper:
You’ll Get What You Pay For
These landscaping professionals are just that- professional. You’ll know when you hire them that you’ll be getting high quality work in return for your investment. While you may miss trimming a few branches of a bush on your own, a pro landscaper will get every last leaf.
How Much Will Materials Cost?
It would take time to look for materials that can be used for landscaping. It would also be an out-of-pocket expense for you to include with the time it takes to complete landscaping jobs on your own. Professional landscapers have these supplies readily available to them.
Landscaping Takes Time
If you hire a landscaper, they know exactly what they’re doing. They’re also completing a job while you are off doing other things. You’ll save quite a bit of time if you hire one.
Landscapers Know What They’re Doing
When you hire a landscaping professional, they know what kinds of plants that you’ll need to get your desired look. They’ll also know how to care for these plants. You could run into quite a few problems without the proper knowledge and experience. Left on your own, there are many different things that can go wrong while completing a landscaping project. You could place the plants in the wrong order, not have level ground, or end up with a lower quality project than you had originally hoped for. When you hire a professional, you know that a project is being carefully planned from start to finish. If the company doesn't execute it the way you’d like, you can always request that they fix it. If you make a major mistake on your own outdoor project, it’s on you!
There’s many advantages to hiring professional landscaping help. From regular yard maintenance to major outdoor projects, it’s a good idea to have help that knows exactly what they’re doing to save you from headaches at a later time.
Have you ever looked around your home and just felt that something was missing? Have you had the feeling that something was off in your home? There are certain design and decor mistakes that you can make inside of your home that may not be so obvious. We’ll give you the information that you need to fix these mistakes and bring back the balance in your home.
Not Enough Lighting
Either you don’t have enough lights in a room, or the lights are not in a good place. You need to make a plan with your lighting as you would with your furniture pieces. Make sure work areas have task lighting, that accent lamps are present to add personality and overhead lighting is spread or or set with a dimmer. This will diversify your lighting types and strengths to help every area of each room be properly lit.
Everything Is Against The Wall
If you enter a room and everything is up against the walls, there’s a problem there! It seems cold and kind of boring if a room appears this way. Make sure that things are at least a few feet apart within a room. Also, try and put some pieces of furniture at angles. Even if you simply put the area rug at an angle, it will make a difference.
There’s Too Much Clutter
If you have too much “stuff” in any room, it can be an issue. If there’s no focal point, it’s easy to overlook each piece. Decorate your rooms so that everything has a place to stand out. Purge your decor at least once a year in order to keep the things that you really love around. Get rid of the tired, boring decor that’s not adding anything to your home. You can also switch up your accessories a few times a year and put away decor that doesn’t gel with the season.
One Color Rules All
You shouldn’t have too much of one color in any room of your home. You’ll need to be sure that you mix it up. If the room is a beige color and your couch is also a neutral tone, place some colorful throw pillows on the sofa to get a pop of color and a bright effect in he room. Choose artwork carefully as well, helping to contrast the wall colors.
There’s No Personality In Your Home
If everything in your home is polished, there’s little room for you to shine through. The most important thing about home decorating is for your personality to be present. While following design rules is a good idea, don’t be so caught up in the “rules” that you forget to show what you like. Let your home represent who you are.
Stylish, comfortable furniture brings out so much of your house's personality. Great furniture also shows off your own unique personality. With the right furniture, benefits continue to multiply. The right furniture can last years. It also serves multiple purposes.
Furniture options are growing but so are furniture prices
A chic sofa bed works as an entertaining and a sleeping piece. Because of its functionality, it's also a natural space saver. The same goes for coffee tables that are designed with pull out storage drawers. Fortunately, brick and mortar as well as online furniture retailers are offering more furniture options.
What a lot of furniture retailers aren't doing is lowering the cost of furniture. On the less expensive end, it can cost several hundred dollars to furnish one room in a house. For those with pricier taste, it's easy to spend several thousand dollars to furnish and decorate a single room.
Inexpensive ways to furnish your home
Just because furniture is expensive, that doesn't mean that you can't design the interior of your home the way you want. Looking to save money? Check out these inexpensive ways to furnish your home:
- Let relatives and friends know that you are open to accepting furniture to design your first house with. For example, you could remove a used living room set from a cousin's house for free and use the furniture in your home.
- Thrift stores are other great places where you can get inexpensive furniture. Charities operate some thrift stores. These stores carry affordable furniture and clothes. You can also find home decorations like silk bouquets, lamps and artwork at thrift stores.
- Visiting flea markets is similar to stopping by thrift stores, except there's generally a lot more space and items for sale at flea markets. Although you could find a new home decoration at a flea market,you'll generally walk away with a used item. But, that doesn't mean that the furniture that you find at a flea market isn't sturdy, reliable and attractive.
- Online auctions is another of the inexpensive ways to furnish your first home. The aim is to furnish your first home. You can always upgrade your furniture later, after your income increases and you pay down your mortgage debt.
- Another way that you could lower the cost of furnishing your first home is to buy furniture on a payment plan. Just make sure that you pay the furniture off before you have to start making interest payments, as interest on furniture payment plans can be hefty.
Openness leads to big savings when it comes to furnishing your home
Buy basic furniture to avoid going into debt after you buy a house. For example, you could make a sofa, kitchen table and chairs and a bed your basic furniture. Get the style, colors and size you want. Pay off your basic furniture before you add more furniture to your house.
As a first time homeowner, also stay open to other furniture options. This includes not turning your parents down should they offer to let you have their furniture,especially if your parents are determined to upgrade their housing. Remember, you may have plenty of opportunities to buy the posh furniture that you've wanted in a few years.